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Comfort Object for Adults?
I know that children have security blankets and maybe that is the most similar thing i can think of to this situation.
I have a friend who is apparently using her pillow as a comfort object. She is in her 20's. It's not like she drags it around or anything, but she definately needs the pillow to sleep. She says that the smell and texture and coolness of the pillow and pillowcase make her feel better when she is stressed out.
I'm looking for more information on this online for her. I dont think that this is necessarily a bad thing, i just think its something that needs to be looked at, and i'm having trouble finding anything online, maybe because i dont know exactly what to call it. All info on "comfort objects" or "security blankets" is based on children.
Any CONSTRUCTIVE advise/opinions?
a) she ASKED me to find out more about this, she's doubting herself, and i wanted to show her that she is not the only one
b) she freely admits that she is NOT a fully functional adult, there are many other issues that she deals with. The fact that she was too afraid to post this question herself is proof of that.
c) thanks to those who have already responded. I will be showing her the answers.
e) she also sucked her thumb as a child and often-times wakes up in the morning sucking her thumb, which she is very embarassed about, and that is how all of this started, i saw her sleeping like that, crashed on my couch
To be honest, I also have a comfort pillow. It is something about the smell, and softness/coolness of it. I have no idea why, its always been this way with me.
I still need it when I am sitting on the couch etc, but don't NEED it. However when I was a kid I couldn't walk room from room without dragging that thing around!
Puzzler Says: August 7th, 2007 at 11:58 am
Hey, we all have them…..
some of us put water falls in our backyards, some of us paint our bedroom walls blue….
some of us have 'worry rocks'….
me, I prefer clothes dried in the sun….it just does something nice to my senses to put them on.
Life would be pretty sad if we never got to enjoy our little 'creature comforts'.
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Bemo Says: August 7th, 2007 at 11:58 am
Well I have my favorite pillow too! when I don't feel good ,and or things are really going badly—I'm happy to have my pillow !
I have a doll also that I use to represent the 'baby me'
I was an abused child . I treat the doll like I needed to be treated an a little one -no I don't play with it but I think about the little me and gently stroke its cheek once in awhile. Laugh if you want —it seems to sooth the hurt I still feel once in awhile.
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enchanted Says: August 7th, 2007 at 11:59 am
Why on earth would you think it's something that "needs to be looked at?" There are adults that are still afraid of the dark…they don't need to be analyzed. Leave her be - she seems to be a fully functioning adult to me.
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Krystl S Says: August 7th, 2007 at 11:59 am
i know a 22 year old who sucks their thumb, it is not as uncommon as people may think
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daillest Says: August 7th, 2007 at 12:00 pm
To be honest, I also have a comfort pillow. It is something about the smell, and softness/coolness of it. I have no idea why, its always been this way with me.
I still need it when I am sitting on the couch etc, but don't NEED it. However when I was a kid I couldn't walk room from room without dragging that thing around!
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